Even though we might not like being the centre of attention, we all enjoy being in one person’s spotlight. When someone is flirting with you, they pay you Attention, and similarly, when we are interested in someone, we pay them attention. This is a sign of attraction that truly crosses borders. It’s dead simple and yet it speaks volumes.

In my research, people said they could gauge the level of someone’s interest by how much attention they were being paid. This was especially helpful when flirting was done in groups, like it often was in London. They said they could tell they were being flirted with if they ‘were the ones being told the story’ in the context of a group.

Oh yes, London is the land of un-obvious flirting, so any little extra bit of information helps. People also said that they could tell that someone was flirting when they ignored their friends and focused all their attention on them – put them in the spotlight, if you will. Similarly, if that person kept going back and forth between the object of their attention and the group they originally came with, their interest was generally pretty clear.

This might seem like an obvious one, but when it comes to matters of the heart, it is really hard to be objective. Think about it, why would you give more attention to any one person in a group? Because you’re interested! Why would it be any different the other way around?

Next time you go out, it might be useful to engage the help of a switched on – and objective – friend.

Want to learn about the other signs? Just think HOT APE.

H – Humour
O – Open Body Language
T – Touch

A – Attention
P – Proximity
E – Eye Contact