Would you like to be a dating expert, but not quite sure where to start? Perhaps you are lacking the confidence that you need to approach the hot girl or guy at the bar, or feel that your flirting skills are nowhere to be found?

Whatever the case may be, Flirtology are here to teach you how to flirt, offer dating advice and anything else along the way.

These ten top tips will have you seeing flirting – and yourself – in a different light.

1. Make a good first impression

Studies have shown it takes only a few seconds to make a first impression. Upon first meeting us, people pick up clues about us both consciously and subconsciously. They only know what we tell them, so project yourself in the way you’d like to be perceived. Follow these tips and techniques to make sure your first impression is a good one!

2. Be Confident

People are attracted to confidence. How to be confident? Well, it means being happy to show people who we are. The key is to figure out what makes you happy and what makes you unique. And then…own it! The good news is that even if you are not yet feeling confident on the inside, you can always fake it on the outside by standing tall, shoulders relaxed, with your head held high. Research by Amy Cuddy shows that we really can ‘fake it till we make it’.

3. Like Yourself

If, as the most important person in your world, you don’t like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? The reason we feel rejection so deeply, is that we give the power of our self-worth over to other people. Don’t give this impossible task to others, sort it out for yourself and then reap the rewards.

4. Smile

Smiles are easy to give and powerful to receive. Even when they are fake, the action of smiling produces oxytocin in the brain, promoting feelings of happiness. Besides, everyone looks lovelier when they smile. As for ‘resting bitch face’. Bah! Who cares about that. Are men ever accused of this? What women look like when we move from A to B, simply trying to get around town, is irrelevant. What everyone should be interested in is what signals we are giving off when we are in a bar, at a party, etc and we are open to chatting.

5. Eye Contact

Eye contact is the most powerful flirting tool. In my research, it was the number one sign that made people understand when someone was flirting. The glances were more frequent, more intense, and lasted for longer. Women take note: it takes the average guy three looks before he begins to understand your interest. Better yet, stop waiting. Stroll over and say hello!

6. Touch

When used appropriately, touch can be very effective in flirting. As a general rule, shoulders and higher up on the arm are considered ‘safe’ areas, as we move down the arm towards the hand, touch becomes more intimate. A light tap on the hand might be the perfect flirting tool for you to try. But, best used to intensify some flirting that is already happening, rather than starting off with it.

7. Don’t be so quick to judge potential partners

Yes, attraction is important, but how often have you started speaking with someone you weren’t initially attracted to, and they became a Greek god, before your very eyes! There is more to you than just your looks, just as there is more to others’ than their outside shell. Find out what is on the inside before you make your decision

8. We all like to feel special

It’s not all about you, but this is actually good news. Change your ‘me’ centered world to one of ‘other’ and feel the pressure and self-consciousness melt away. Make the other person your first priority. Focus less on yourself and how you are feeling and put your attention on the other person.

9. Take the ‘reject’ out of rejection

Rejection isn’t about you, it’s about the situation of the other person. Maybe they are tired, married, or you’re just not their type. The good news is that you are a million other people’s type … so go flirt with them!

10. Flirting is fun!

Don’t look at flirting as something you are forced to do – flirting is a fun way to pass the time. Keep it light, fun, and pressure free. The only losers are those who don’t try…


If you’d like to put these tips to the test, we’d love for you to join us on a night out with one of our Fearless Flirting Tours of London! We will teach you how to approach and flirt without fear by arming you with even more techniques and a whole new way to view this flirting business.

To learn more, and book your place, please click here. If you’d like any further information, or would prefer to book some one-to-one coaching, please contact me today on +44 020 7118 0858 or at jean@flirtology.com.