Nikki came to me recently (not her real name). She had been divorced for over a year, and was having fun dating again. She succumbed to online dating and signed up to E-Harmony and was going on dates 4 nights a week. Although the quantity of dates was abundant, the quality was not. She felt that she was way too assertive, educated and ambitious for most of the men she met online. This isn’t to say there was anything wrong with them, or her, but they just weren’t good fits. This is the false illusion that online dating brings. You feel you are being proactive, because you are able to go on numerous dates, but the people you are meeting are not good fits. So, Nikki changed tactics and ditched online dating, and saw an incredible result!