Hello! I’m Jean Smith, founder of Flirtology.
A Flirt Interpreter, I can give anyone the confidence – and skills – to attract and approach people. These skills can be used, equally, to wow the crowd at a party, to wow-ing the person of your dreams…
Do you think you were absent the day these skills were being handed out? Don’t worry, your chances are not lost: flirting is a learnable skill, that can be taught. My mission is for you to experience just how easy, fun, and fruitful it can be.
‘How does one become a Flirtologist?’ As a social and cultural anthropologist, I have always been curious about human behaviour. I found my niche, teaching people how to connect, when I moved to London in 1999. I discovered the reserved Brits could use a little help in the ‘interacting with strangers’ department. Since then, I have learnt that this is a world-wide conundrum. We are all looking for connection, but don’t know how to get it. Because I view everything from a social scientific approach, I conducted some extensive research into the flirting and dating habits of 250 people in London, New York, Paris and Stockholm, which I then turned into a book, The Flirt Interpreter. I discovered that flirting behaviour does cross Western cultures and that there are six standard flirting signs, an acronym that I teach as H.O.T. A.P.E.
Using the Flirtology method, you will learn:
Fearless flirting – How would you like to feel confident when faced with new situations and people? Because this entire thing is based on your feelings about rejection, the Flirtology method teaches rejection in a different way, one where rejection is not something to be afraid of – but actually your friend! The Flirtology mantra is, ‘Act like yourself, and you will attract people with whom you match.’
How to attract – Let’s face it. We all like to be attractive. I can show you how. I have researched flirting, and know there are 6 signals that you can use to attract, and recognise when someone is flirting with you. Wanna’ learn the secrets of the H.O.T. A.P.E. method, the one that Jean has shared on her TED talk?
How to be happy – This is what it is all about: Currently, you might be feeling a bit stuck. You know there is a better way, but you don’t know how to get there.
The formula is very simple – it starts with your thoughts, which affects your behaviour, which affects your outcomes. Identifying these unhelpful chains, that are holding you down, will impact the way that the rest of your life unfolds. But you can’t make the change by yourself for two reasons: 1) You’re too close to it and 2) You don’t know how. You need an objective (but gentle) anthropologist on your team.
Although this all might seem like it’s hard, or a big chore, it’s not supposed to be this way. Trust me, this stuff is easy, even fun! Or, don’t trust me, trust those who have had serious flirting transformations! Better yet, why don’t you join me on a Fearless Flirting Tour or look into some private coaching with me, and I’ll prove it!
Social & Cultural Anthropologist, Jean Smith, has appeared on TV, radio and in print commenting on topics ranging from dating, flirting and relationships, to wider social issues. Jean is a Tedx Speaker, and very popular on the London speaking circuit. She has spoken everywhere from the Royal Society of Medicine to the Royal Festival Hall. She also gives talks internationally, most recently in Singapore and Kuala Lumpur. Her television appearances include BBC Breakfast, Daybreak and ITV’s London Tonight. Print media appearances include The Telegraph, The Daily Mail, and Grazia. She has also been featured in a segment on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s hour on The Science of Flirting.
With a degree in Cultural Anthropology and a Masters in Social Anthropology, Jean’s outlook on making connections is based on science, but believes it should be fun and easy. Her book, The Flirt Interpreter, distills her research into the way people communicate in different cultures and reveals the six universal signs of flirting. As the founder of Flirtology, Jean teaches people how make connections with others: romantically, socially, and professionally.
Jean is also passionate about individuals becoming the happiest versions of themselves, with a life full of options. Imagine a world where everyone was self-assured and secure? She also believes that happiness can only be achieved through meaningful relationships and contributing to a greater good. To this end, she is a volunteer guest lecturer at Impact Hub London, teaching networking and communication skills to young start-ups. She is also a volunteer for Inspiring the Future, and gives talks to school children on the immense possibilities of their future. She is part of the growing number of people who want to make the world a better place.